because you just can't make shit like this up

After much thought, I decided that I would re post what I deleted the other day. I think this conversation really brings some new space to the questions I have been posing in a very personal way. I had to reflect on what I was putting out there, and ultimately, I feel like it is fair game for me to post this and I have no problem dealing with the consequences. I do try to respect those who I am writing about, and I question my motives continuously. I believe this IM captures a pretty funny point however...


In regards to blogging, and I will just specifically speak in regards to when you and I were in a relationship, do you feel that I should have ever or always asked permission whenever writing something that you were part of, whether or not it was anonymous, and whether or not it was just about my feelings or so on and not necessarily about you or "your character"?

why are you asking me this?
and to answer your question, you never need my permission to write anything. it's a free country. if i can't handle it, it's my problem.

because i am working on an article on the subject, and b/c you were the last person i was in a relationship with who i also wrote about online.

cool

and actually, not true. there are many legalities in regards to writing about people who are not in the public eyes (i.e. celebrities, politician, etc)
So, in your opinion, i can write anything about you, make it public, and that would be cool? i wouldn't need your permission?

cool? i guess it depends on what you'd write. but you don't need anybody's permission to write about them as far as i know.

so, then , what would - "depends on what you write" - contain? would it be anything that wasn't flattering, or possibly embarrassing, or mean even? would that be totally based on yr reaction then, and not any any tangible limits about what is kosher and what isn't?

well i dunno. i was really excited when you wrote stuff that was nice about me, and then i was indifferent when you wrote the opposite

so what was it about the nice stuff that made you excited? that it was this public thing? or that I thought that in the first place? and on the flip side, i don't think i ever wrote "not nice" things about you. i mean, you kinda broke up with me like a highschooler in my opinion.

the stuff you wrote made me happy
and the public thing on the other end was when i wasn't into it

sorry, that was worded strangely .
so, you were happy with nice things i wrote about you, and then you were indifferent about it when you weren't into me anymore?
or you werent into the public thing?

both

doesn't being "not into" present something a little different than "indifferent?"

um ok

no, it was a question

i don't know

do you think i was truthful in regards to the public representation i made of you?

i don't really remember what you said

is there anything you would in the future like me to never mention on my blog or in my work at large? or is it all free game?

i don't really care. you can say whatever you want.